Soulmates.

Soulmate: noun. A person ideally suited to another as a close friend or romantic partner.

People are given two soulmates in their lifetime.

A lover.
The one person who opens your heart to a whole new world and wonder no one can give you. A single touch electrifies you. Intensity. Love. Honesty. Affection. Spiritually.

A best friend.
Someone to spend life with that doesn’t hate you, scar you, && is always there to help && protect you. Love. Honesty. Spiritually.

You can love many people in a single lifetime. Some stay, but most leave. Boyfriends. Girlfriend. Friends. Co-workers. Life hands you hundred’s of people in your life but the ones who matter never leave. You may not talk daily, or see each other often – but you know, deep inside, they are there forever.

Growing up I always said, and believed, that a person can only have one soulmate until I realized that’s not exactly true and funnily enough, I realized this while watching One Tree Hill. I will always believe you can only be “in love” with one person in your lifetime. I don’t believe you can feel something THAT strong for multiple people. (You can love as many as you want. Big difference between loving someone && being in love with someone.)

But sometimes I forget about best friends. That one person you meet and you simply think to yourself this person, I like this person, they will be mine forever. &&& it’s true, you may not see them on a daily basis, or even monthly basis. But you know, &&& they know, &&& everyone knows – they are your person.

Your. Person.
Your bestfriend.
Your companion.

Everyone needs that person too. You need the one person in your life who isn’t going to tear you down, or make you feel inferior to everyone else. Someone who doesn’t crumple your spirit, or squeeze you like an orange if you want to believe in rainbows and unicorns. Someone who will not get mad when you trip them into the mud, or lock them out of the car on a rainy night.

Reading that you started thinking about your wife or husband. Boyfriend or girlfriend. But do you think of your best friend. The person you met in elementary school or junior high. Possibly high school or college. Or if you lacked social skills and didn’t develop much until adulthood, maybe you’re thinking about a person at work. A girl or a guy that makes your life a little less stressful and enjoyable. Life is hard enough trying to maneuver your way around it – it’s even harder when you’re alone – that’s why God gave you people. Two people. The two people that will get you through life without too much struggle, or too much pain, heartbreak, or sorrow.

Those two people.
Your lover.
Your best friend.
Your soul mates.

Are we enablers?

Tonight on my way home from work I began wondering if I am an enabler for behavior I don’t agree with. Do I, without realizing it, tell people that I am okay with them treating other people horribly and without any care whatsoever? What gives me the right to ever let someone sit somewhere and bash another person without telling them to stop and think about this first?

I am a listener. I have been since I can remember. I want people to be happy and I figure that if I listen to them rant, rave, and complain that somewhere they will just automatically turn happy. However, I’m not happy. Through this whole process that I’m holding their hand for, I’m not happy. I’m not happy listening to grown adults trash talk one another over which one took the last piece of college rule lined paper from the bigger desk. I’m not happy as I sit there, in my chair at work, and listen to women, who happen to be older than me, call someone else an ugly whore with no morals. I’m not happy when I listen to two women sit across from one another screaming obscenities over some of the dumbest reasons.

Now I wonder, if all of these times I sit there and allow them to rant to me about other people, am I enabling them to treat people like crap? Am I telling them this behavior is okay and they should continue doing it?

The biggest thing I have been toying with is – would it stop if I were to tell them I refuse to enable a behavior i don’t agree with? Just tell them no, I refuse to listen. Would that make them realize that the way they are treating people is wrong and they should seriously rethink their strategy?

A Letter:

Daily Prompt:

Who is the person in your life who can do no wrong? Describe this person and tell us why you hold them in such high esteem.

Dear Timothy,

There are not many people left that I truly cherish. We have been through a lot and every day we face more side by side. At times it feels like a dream, and we’re sucked into it. I feel, sometimes, if someone pinched us hard enough we’d wake up and we’d be 15 & 16 again. Back to reality. Back to the life we knew was ours.

We an Hansel & Gretel, if you will. A fairy tale brought to life. (I’ve been watching too much “Once Upon a Time.”)

I know that isn’t true. We aren’t dreaming. We are living life the way we are supposed to. However, my dear brother, I know there is so much more we have to face. Together.

I was asked today who is the most precious person in my life. The only person I could think of was you. You are everything in my life. If I ever lost you I have no idea what I would do. How I would go on.

You’ve always been the strong one. The one that isn’t afraid. That doesn’t shed many tears. Someone with a heart of gold, even if you decided to stop believing so high of yourself. You’re intelligent, nice, and do so much for so many people who take you for granted. I know people think, sometimes, that you’re no good. But to me, you’re exactly what people need in their lives.

You are comparably different than everyone in my life. You are the only one left that tells me how it is. The only person I can honestly put all of my faith in and know that I won’t be disappointed in the end. I know, just as you do, you’ve disappointed me. But not on purpose, and I know this.

Nobody is perfect.

But I know you will always be damn near perfect in my eyes. You are my big brother. Someone who sticks up for me. Believes in me. Takes care of me. I know that as long as you’re near me I can accomplish anything I want. You’re more of inspiration to me than you’ll ever know, and I want to thank you. I love you more than you’ll ever know and don’t want you to forget it.

Love always,

Your Little Sister.